One of the most important things to remember in order to get your ex back fast is this: You used to be a challenge to your ex. Whether you were the dominant/demanding one in the relationship or not, the fact remains that you were a challenge (everyone is), and this made your partner irresistibly attracted to you.
You see, without friction, there can be no attraction, and if you are like most people, the last thing on your mind right now is to create any kind of friction. To the contrary, you’re probably playing it really safe right now.
This makes you a zero challenge for your ex. This is not good, because your ex knows that you’ll be back in a second if they ask you to – you’re basically wrapped around your ex’s finger.
You need to start becoming a challenge again, by demonstrating that your ex has no more power and control over you than when you were together. Perhaps you’ve bought your ex gifts, or flowers. Maybe you’ve been acting unusually nice, to have her/him see “what they’re missing”.
…all of which sends one gigantic signal to your ex, which sounds a little something like: “I’m worthless/hopeless/lost without you”. However, the only signal your ex is picking up is “I’m worthless and lost”, and NO ONE is attracted to that. You’re telling him/her that you have a low value.
You will not regain this respect until you refuse to give any more of your power away to your ex. The good news is that you can do this by simply not directly communicating with her – make yourself exclusive. After all, this is exactly what your ex is doing, and notice the effect it’s having on you.
Don’t see her, call her, text her, comment on her Facebook page, e-mail her or anything else. And if she contacts you, respond with silence. If she contacts you again to ask why you haven’t responded, tell her that “sorry, you’ve been busy”. Then respond very politely to any questions she may have.
Make sure you stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. Being her friend right now is a slippery slope, as it will actually make her feel better about the breakup, while remaining power over you. Don’t do it.
All this being said, be sure to keep your ex “locked in to you” with any shared belongings. Any shared belongings (at both your ex’s and your place) should be kept like that. Same thing goes with any owed monies between the two of you. However, if you’ve already given back each other’s things, don’t panic.
For the next few weeks, fully embrace and enjoy your single status. Have fun, enjoy life and be the person your ex fell in love with in the first place. Do this, and you’ve taken the first step towards getting your ex back fast.